March 26, 2018

Character & Emotion

character & emotion

Character and emotion, we see in people everyday. And something we demonstrate everyday. Something I studied when watching other team coaches. We’ve all seen the emotional coach, yelling and throwing things.

I don’t remember seeing Coach Wooden behaving that way. Do you? He’s a person I decided to model. As I became a young hockey coach, the discipline to follow his style was the hard part. Emotions during a season resemble a roller coaster. Thankfully I learned and discipline carried me during the journey.

As we interact with people, we make decisions. Who will come alongside and help or possibly represent us. We decide who’s the assistant coach, who joins our team, or even who represents our community.  Are they character based or more emotional-driven? Are they leaders or followers?

I’ve found John Maxwell’s thoughts insightful and trust you’ll find them helpful.

Life would certainly be easier – and success more simple – if all it took to achieve was to KNOW the right things and DECIDE to do them, right? But I think it’s more accurate to say that a decision is just one bookend of achievement. The other is discipline.

Decisions can only help us start. Discipline helps us finish. That’s where character comes in.

Emotion might drive us to make a decision. But character is what keeps us going, even when it gets hard.

Some differences between Character-driven and Emotion-driven people:

Character-driven people…

  1. Do right, then feel good
  2. Are commitment driven
  3. Make principle-based decisions
  4. Let action control attitude
  5. Believe it, then see it
  6. Create momentum
  7. Ask, “What are my responsibilities?
  8. Continue when problems arise
  9. Are steady
  10. Are leaders

Emotion-driven people…

  1. Feel good, then do right
  2. Are convenience-driven
  3. Make popular decisions
  4. Let attitude control action
  5. See it, then believe it
  6. Wait for momentum
  7. Ask, “What are my rights?”
  8. Quit when problems arise
  9. Are moody
  10. Are followers

It’s your choice. Are you driven by emotion? Or character?

Leader or Follower?

“Discipline yourself and others won’t need to” — Coach John Wooden

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